There’s no getting around it – we live in an age where comfort is king and inconvenience is infuriating. We don’t like to wait, don’t want to be bored, don’t want to do hard things.
What happens to our problem-solving skills in this kind of society?
Band-Aids. Lots and lots of Band-Aids. I’m not talking about people walking around with Band-Aids all over their bodies. I’m talking about slapping a metaphorical Band-Aid over their problem, feeling like it’s “all better” (for now, anyway), and going about their business with a festering wound underneath.
What happens to our souls in the meantime? What happens to our emotional, mental, and physical well-being?
I can tell you from experience – Band-Aids are great for scrapes and cuts, but not for gaping wounds like loneliness, out-of-control spending habits, or depression. If you continue to ignore the problem… well, it’s only going to get worse.
Despite knowing this, I can feel myself looking for quick fixes and Band-Aids for my problems instead of digging in and doing the hard work. I notice that habit in my everyday life. Instead of fleeing from it, which would be so easy to do, I sit with it. I wrestle with it. I let myself feel all the things.
I dig in. I do the hard work. I look for real solutions.
It isn’t easy, and I honestly don’t think that it ever will be. I don’t like being uncomfortable. I don’t like wading through deep feelings, getting vulnerable (even with myself), and sifting through the lies to find Truth.
But, dear friend, it is so, so worth it.
After I have journaled, prayed, brainstormed, talked, and prayed some more… I feel whole. I have peace. I can shift the focus off myself and love my family well.
So when something bad or uncomfortable or discouraging happens, allow yourself to sit with your feelings for a moment. Then grab a shovel and dig in.